You get your first car.
You lose your virginity.
You graduate college.
A family member dies.
You get your first well-paying job.
You buy a house.
You go skydiving.
You finish writing a book.
Your baby is born.
You lose it all.
These are the moments we live for, the moments we’re told will flash before our eyes as we pass into whatever ether awaits us on the other side of death.
They’re the moments we always seem to be moving away from or gravitating towards; often they’re referred to as “defining moments” in one’s life. But….
Do your “defining moments” really define you?
We’re all familiar with the idea of life as a line. We’re born at one end. We die at the other.
And most of us have some understanding of the phrase “life moves in cycles” or some variation of it.
For those visually stimulated among us, it’s reasonable to visualize one’s life as such:
Maybe with a bit more variation in the ups and downs, yeah? But you get the idea.
The ups and downs are the “cycles”. There are highs. There are lows. But there are no breaks.
A high point in your life doesn’t exist in a vacuum. Nor does a low point. Our lives are continuing towards expiration steadily whether we’re paying attention or not.
Why then are we always so focused on the few highs and lows instead of the seemingly infinite moments between?
The idea of equilibrium
It shouldn’t be too hard to conceive an imaginary state of equilibrium in one’s life. Where you’re neither happy nor sad. You just exist.
Perhaps “equilibrium” is a bit cavalier, as it’s not a state of mind one easily maintains. “Median” is maybe a better term; right in the middle between the best of the best and the worst of the worst.
As we travel along our line of life, from high to low, from low to high, we pass through this median numerous times, necessarily; the same way you can’t travel from the USA to Canada without crossing the international border separating the two.
There’s a concept in calculus called “the area under the curve” which is visualized as such:
If the straight horizontal line is our “median” and the curvy line is our life then every point on the line above the median is considered a positive point in our life while every point below the median would be a negative point.
In an attempt to avoid getting too complicated: the long and the short is that we all want to be happier more often than we’re unhappy.
But most of us don’t live this way. We’re holding out for the high points, otherwise cruising through life without much concern.
Live for the infinite moments between
This post his horribly disjointed and poorly explained but here’s the gist: the trillions upon trillions of seemingly insignificant moments in your life are ultimately so much more important to the overall satisfaction you experiences in your life.
Make a conscious effort to be more positive every moment of every day and watch your life blossom.