To the world you may be one person; but to one person you may be the world.
– Dr. Seuss
I became a huge planet 1,465 days ago, the day my son was born. With every passing day it becomes more apparent to me how important I am to him.
Just as our moon revolves around Earth, so does he revolve around me and depend on me to help him maintain a healthy trajectory via my “gravity”.
We all have gravity with someone. Remember: “…to one person you may be the world.”
Who are you affecting with your gravity? With every interaction we’re given an opportunity to pull on the trajectories of those we’re interacting with.
Impromptu physics lesson: gravity is proportional to mass. As the mass of an object increases, so does the gravitational force, or “pull” it exerts on other objects.
Thusly, I’m a planet (lots of mass) to my son because so much of who I am and what I do affects him. My mother is a planet for me (even to this day, in my 27th year of life). A select number of long-time friends are my planets.
Funny thing about multiple uncontrollable outside forces is that they necessarily affect you in an unpredictable way. I’m forever thankful to all my planets for collectively bringing me, pulling me, to my current place and existence.
Gravity can only pull, never push.
More physics: the Earth, exerting gravitational force on every object nearby is ultimately fighting for all those objects to be at its core or, in layman’s terms, in exactly the same position as the Earth’s center.
What’s this mean for all of us human planets?
Simply, if we’re in an unhealthy place (emotionally, physically, spiritually, financially, etc) we can only really hope to pull others in to join us, if we exert any kind of force on them at all.
This is what drives me as my son’s planet. Playing such an important role in his life, I can’t hope for him to grow into a beautiful, multifaceted, creative, positive planet of his own if I’m in any sort of unhealthy existence and, whether I like it or not, pulling him into that unhealthy existence with me.
Move towards “better” and pull others along.
To the point of this somewhat ramble-y post: we’re always being pulled and we’re always pulling others.
If we’re not being pulled towards “better”, we’re being pulled towards “worse” (you might argue it’s possible to not move towards either but I’d counter by saying that’s like trying to balance a toothpick vertically on the tip of another toothpick; possible? yes; probable? no).
Spend every minute of every day pursuing “better” and, by proxy, pulling others towards “better”.
Grow, move towards the best possible existence you can, and affect as many trajectories as possible before you’re broken back down into billions of pieces to float around in this cosmos of humans.
Be a good planet.